A lot of men get really nervous around a dominant woman. And they’re right to be a little worried, a touch anxious, a little bit uncomfortable because all their usual tactics to get a woman to like them fall flat with a strong, independent, and powerful woman. Men who try to use Pick Up Artist games on a femdom are in for a good solid mocking, and even more respectful men who really do just want to make a strong woman happy find difficulties in relating. Old relationship patterns just won’t do, and that’s why you need to follow my personal three step plan to please a dominant woman.
Step one for how to please a dominant woman:
Grovel. Lower yourself. Leave the ego at the door, and do not make yourself the center of any interaction. Men tend to relate everything back to themselves, to always have an anecdote that showcases their skills or abilities, in an attempt to show off how ‘high value’ they are. The thing is, to a dominant woman, there are no high value men. All men start at a base level of ‘beneath notice’ and can drop in regard, but to rise above that baseline level? Nigh impossible. All the tricks that a PUA employs will backfire hilariously with a powerful and independent woman because attempts to ‘neg’ or play mind games with her are obvious and pathetic attempts to bolster an already lacking standing. Thus the only viable tactic left is to drop to your pathetic knees, acknowledge your lack of worth, and grovel like a bitch.
Ready for the next step? It’s a little more advanced:
Beg. That’s right. After you’ve lowered your ego, accepted your place as beneath the dominant woman you’re trying to impress, and understood in full that you’ll never really measure up, it’s time for you to beg. A lot of men find the idea of begging a woman very hard to swallow. They’ve grown up thinking that they get to be ‘alpha’ males, that women should listen to them, be subservient, and hang onto their every word. The satirical world that Ken sets up in the Barbie movie is what so many emotionally immature men think the world is like or should be like. It’s a satire and an immature view of the world, but it does hold a grain of truth in that an awful lot of men really do act like the Kens did in their play patriarchy. The thing is, dear alpha male wanna be GI Joe, you need to accept that you can’t even rise to the level of a fashion doll. Embrace your place in the world, and understand that some women don’t need you to be complete. If you want to be in her life, you need to understand that you are an accessory to her. Not the other way around. So, after you grovel, you beg to show the true depth of your submission to a dominant woman.
Last step! Are you ready?
Be grateful for what she gives you. Look, you’re there to enhance her life, to serve her, to provide added value. If you don’t add value, you don’t get to be there. Anything she gives you is, therefore a gift. Be grateful. If she notices you, acknowledges your begging and groveling, allows you to serve her out of the kindness of her heart, you need to understand that she’s going out of her way to provide you with anything, much less any form of sexual domination or pleasure. Be glad, appreciative, and grateful! Because she doesn’t have to do anything at all with your sad loser ass. Remember that she is perfectly happy and content without you and that you had to work hard to get any attention at all from her. You need to continue to provide her with added value because you have no value in yourself as is. Add that value to her life, and let her know how very glad you are to be in her life in any way. Express your gratitude to her through words and actions. Tell her you’re thankful, and then serve her with your actions. What can you do to make her life better? Do that.
Not all men are cut out to please a dominant woman.
You can learn to be less of a toxic masculinity exuding man and catch the attention of a high-value, independent, powerfully dominant woman. You just need to learn to check your ego and to bring something other than beard hairs in the bathroom sink and a tendency to miss the laundry basket with your nasty socks to her life. Bring value, bring humility, and bring your gratefulness because I guarantee that you need her a lot more than she needs you. You fuck up and try to tell her to make you a sandwich and you’ll be back to a cold bed and loveless existence while she will upgrade in a flat second. She’ll go to the salon, get her hair and nails done, hit the club, and have a brand new humble, grateful, useful man before you can fully process the speed of her rebound. So get your mind right if you want to please a dominant woman. Good luck with that; you have a lifetime of subconscious programming to undo.
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Thank You for the three step plan! There are several great sentences that are worth highlighting. My favorite is understanding that i am an accessory to Her.
Thank You for the three step plan! There are several great sentences that are worth highlighting. My favorite is understanding that i am an accessory to *Her*.
Embrace the Kenergy!
I’m sure you can figure out what is basically the blow up doll husband lifestyle. Maybe, animatronic robot house help?
Takes notes.
You’d better be taking notes! You’ll make a good assistant for your wife, especially once she finds out about your panty obsession.
Great post Ms Harper!
It’s true, I am amused at the traditional PUA and their antics. ( can see right through you!) Truth is I love men, I wouldn’t be here without one! The main difference, I feel, between Dominant Women and your stereotypical woman is exactly what you mentioned, is we know we are high value, we know our worth, and any penis creature out there better up their game, or well, they can just return to the minor leagues!
Happy Serving, fella’s! But one question, after reading the above, how would you please Harper?
It really is funny when they try their games on us! As if negging or trying to push/pull a dominant Mistress would ever work. 😛
The PUA link ???? I had a friend who believed in it and when we were younger and hitting the bar scene I saw him get slammed more than once. He shrugged it off trying to act too cool.
He ended up marrying a bossy woman. I’ll bet she uses the strap-on on him.
GROVEL! Done. I love when you put me on my knees. I am Your Bitch Harper.
I AM MISTRESS HARPER’S BITCH and I absolutely LOVE IT! Do you have any idea how wonderful it is to be a bitch for a woman like you?
BEG! Done. I actually remember our early sessions, maybe even in our first session so long ago, where you made me BEG you. You were (are) so cool Harper and I remember getting really excited because you were one of the first women to make me beg. It was a huge aphrodisiac. You didn’t give me any warning. You just blurted it out at one point, catching me off guard. I wonder what the look on my face was in that moment?
You said, “Beg, get down on your knees and BEG.” You didn’t say anything else until I complied. That’s when I knew you really were a powerful woman.
A less powerful woman would have filled the brief silence, the moments were I was sitting there startled like a deer in the headlights, with banter. But YOU, a TRUE powerful woman makes a command and then let’s the silence take over.
BE GRATEFUL! Done. You do like to make me thank you, I do and I don’t need to be reminded. I am grateful you acknowledge my groveling and begging, even if you order me to do it in the first place, I still am grateful. In fact I am going to thank you right now for telling me, allowing me to beg YOU. It really is a privilege. I am REALLY GRATEFUL you found me out and know who I am ; ). I will never be able to thank you enough for that. It has been one of the greatest things that has happened to me since I started calling so many years ago. Sincerely!
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU Harper!
I am also grateful for you and all the women of LDW including the staff who keep it running for all of us. I would venture to say it truly is a great public service that we have a place to come and ‘let it all out’ without judgement (unless that’s what we want, which, yeah, sometimes I like standing in front of a woman to be judged).
I mean it. I am grateful!
I never need to worry that you won’t do all the steps just right, David. You always Grovel, and Beg, and you express your gratitude to me so well! Good boy.
I’m honestly more comfortable around dominant women, or at least women who are assertive out in public whether or not they like to be dominant in the bedroom. That, of course, is for general socializing.
If I’m attracted to her in a sensual way and I’m looking for affection, well, then it doesn’t matter if she is dominant or not—I get anxiety. But all that goes away if she makes the first move. Well, okay, being honest with myself, it becomes easier to mask if she makes the first move.
Since I’m not good at picking up subtle cues, the game I developed may not be the most successful game but it works for me. I just send out thousands of dick pics…okay, just kidding. What I do is even when I’m attracted to her in a sensual way, I’m just there for general socializing. If her feeling towards me is mutual and she figures out the type of person I am and makes that first move, it’s all good.
I know for a fact there are women I was interested in where the feeling was mutual but she thought I wasn’t interested because I didn’t act on the signals she sent, but honestly, I’m okay with that. I’d rather have that happen than to misinterpret cues when there isn’t interest.
If only friendship develops where something more could have developed, that’s still not a bad thing. I have no desire to produce any rugrats so it’s not like there is any urgency in finding my soul mate.