If you’re excited by humiliation, femdom phone sex is perfectly suited for the exploitation–I mean–exploration of your kink. 😇
But you know what? Not every subbie knows how to do that. Ask for what they want, that is. It can especially be a challenge when the type of humiliation that gets you going requires more than verbal humiliation from your Mistress, like with small penis humiliation. That’s pretty straightforward, and I’m never at a loss for words when it comes to belittling your little member!
So what about real-time, hands on humiliation?
Put yourself in the position of a first time subbie, or remember when you were one yourself:
You come across one of Our sites, read an essay or a blog post, perhaps learning what Femdommes are for the very first time. You’re hoping we can help you sort out your deviant desires. But when it comes to describing them, you feel at a loss.
When you connect with Me (or fantasize about doing so), how will you broach the subject of what makes you stiff and tingly? Probably something like, “I beg to humiliate myself for you, Goddess Rachel”.
That’s a good start! But what if I reply, “And how do you propose to do that?”
Find yourself stymied?
Read on, and perhaps I can illuminate the possibilities a bit! It’s easier than you think.
To start, ask yourself a question, and spend some time thinking about the answer.
How did you find out you were excited by humiliation?
Perhaps all you know is that certain situations, experiences, memories, or thoughts cause a tingle in your pants, and you want to feel it again. Preferably guided there by a beautiful woman, or for her amusement.
You may not realize that there’s a wealth of information for your humiliatrix to feed on in that realization alone, but there is!
All you have to do is tease out the details a little bit, or be patient and let Me interrogate you.😜
Let Me give you an example:
One of My long term submissives has a foot fetish. He had no problem telling Me that. But at first, that’s all he could tell Me.
If I hadn’t pressed him for details and asked the right questions, he might have become discouraged, and given up. He was new to phone sex, and wasn’t sure anyone would be able to help him figure out what he was looking for in this context, or if submission by phone could provide an outlet at all. But with a little persistence, we engaged in a process of elimination that lead us to a titillating discovery!
No, he didn’t want to masturbate while I described allowing him to make love to My own silky soles (though you’re welcome to lose yourself in such a fantasy session). He liked the idea of directed foot worship, but that didn’t quite hit the spot either. He liked the idea of serving as a footstool, but that was only good for so much.
No, he didn’t want to simply confess, though I often do serve as an erotic confessional. He wanted Me to interact with his kink directly, if we could figure out what it was. On the other hand, he confessed that he wasn’t worthy to “get physical” with beautiful feet, even in fantasy. He loved to look at them, and indulged that taste, but admittedly felt unworthy of that as well.
Did he want to be punished for his foot fetish? Arguably, he deserved to be, since he was self-admittedly unworthy of fucking them but never stopped looking at them. Alas, he wasn’t into impact play or pain of any kind. Unless you consider the temporary discomfort of blue balls to be painful, that is. But let’s move on.
Next, I asked him how it made him feel to tell Me about his foot fetish, given his unworthiness.
“Humiliated and excited,” he said.
Bingo.
Take the humiliation and excitement further!
At a point like this, it’s important to trust your Mistress. After all, if you’re not sure exactly what sort of humiliation you need, or if it’s humiliation you need at all, it might be worthwhile to take Her lead. Even, and maybe especially when it’s something that makes you squirm with a type of discomfort that doesn’t necessarily feel sexy at first. Consent, and knowing your own limits, are important, but don’t let a mistaken entitlement to dignity keep you from surrender.
What’s the worst that can happen? That you learn more about your own likes and dislikes in a safe, discreet environment?
Anyway, the long and the short of it is, My playmate had to push past a reluctance to lay himself bare completely. Literally and figuratively! 😜
Let’s continue.
I took the chance that what really got him going, or might, was humiliating himself for Me because of his foot fetish. Showing Me, and himself, just how powerless he is against his desire and reverence for women’s beautiful feet. Mine, and those of others.
The result? A D/s dynamic going on 5 years that continues to satisfy us both. He never fails to amuse Me with his antics.
How did I facilitate his doing so? Well, we’ve enjoyed many different scenarios over time. But here’s just one example:
First, we connect on Discord. Next, I instruct him to wrap his hand around his hard cock, but keep that stroking hand completely still until the appointed time. Then, I begin sending him carefully curated images and video clips of women’s feet. And he proceeds to vote on them, according to how horny they make him.
How does he vote?
By stroking, of course. He’s not allowed to speak, other than to moan. In fact, I expect him to moan more theatrically than he would otherwise, in proportion to the fervor of his strokes. 😄
When he takes up a nice, slow, oozing stroke, I know that the feet in question are “just pretty”. As he becomes more or less excited by the feet presented, and the depravity he would subject himself to for access to them, his strokes increase or decrease, and his moans can be anywhere from loud enough for his neighbors to hear, to a pathetic whimper. And back again!
All accompanied by My humiliating laughter!
So what’s My point?
Keep reading.
Why not interrogate yourself?
Let’s face it, playtime with Me is a luxury. A luxury well worth it, yes, if I may say so. But the fact remains, time is literally money. Not just for Me, but more importantly, one could argue, for you.
It’s to your benefit, therefore, to come to Me having done some of the above interrogation on yourself. Don’t get Me wrong, if it excites you to be interrogated by a Femdomme, such that you don’t mind the time ticking by, I’m happy to oblige! Let Me pry out all your little kinky secrets. I’ll explore your naughty nooks and crannies ’til the cows come home. 😜
But if you’re excited by humiliation, or any kink for that matter, and all that’s been keeping you from exploring it with Me is the fact that you don’t know how to describe what you want, you can at least uncover some trailheads to bring to our time together by asking yourself some well-considered questions about it.
Having trouble thinking about what kinds of questions you might ask yourself?
Click the banner below to listen to Me read you some sample questions. You don’t have to write down the answers, or even have the answers right away. But give yourself some time to think about them. Observe your physical reactions, if any, to the act of asking, as much as to any possible answers you may come up with. Revisit them if you need to, in order to give memories time to surface and ideas to percolate.
Then, as always, bring them to Me. Let’s see, between your self-discovery and My predatory humiliatrix instincts, where we can go!
xx
Goddess Rachel, Humiliatrix
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